We hear a lot about family values and traditional marriage these days.

At the same time, our society is going through tremendous changes, with increased acceptance of gender, racial and social differences. You could say I know this subject from the inside.

At 31, I have been with my wife for 13 years, and we have four children. At a time when nearly 75% of marriages fail within ten years, this is a great accomplishment. But look a little closer and you’ll see that we are an interracial couple, and our children join our two ethnic lines. I grew up the Black-Jewish son of an LGBT family. That’s a mouthful, right? Many people gawked and squealed about how my family wasn’t right or natural. Well, these criticisms hurt, but my family didn’t harm me, and in fact it taught me the important lesson that it’s love, not biology, that makes a family.

Too often we lose focus about what’s truly important in a family: the children. Instead, we think too much about what goes on in the bedroom. I believe government should stay out of the home, as much as possible. We need to leave people alone to live life as they see fit, as long as they aren’t harming anyone, or their country. Government is meant to be secular. We should not be enforcing religious law in courts or imposing civil law on religion. Government has no place in our bedrooms. Or controlling our bodies. People are not property.

The vestiges of ownership must be finally cast aside, which includes an end to the subsidizing of domestic servants through legal marriage of two able-bodied adults without dependents.

Rather than relying on government to guide our moral, ethical and spiritual characters, we should rely on each other. During a leadership training, our instructor asked us to list the values we cared about. He then asked us to consider how much of our time we were putting into those values. How many hours of our day we spent actively engaged with these values. The answers were quite shocking, because almost everyone spent more time talking than they did actually doing anything about it. The takeaway is that we should all spend one hour per month working for a cause or goal that means something to us. For just that one hour, put action into your words. I believe that if we all did this, the world would be a much better place.

I’m not running for office to tell you how to live your life or raise your kids. I’m going to Washington to put action behind my words, to get results for yours.